Maturin, I want to explore a little bit more about if infidelity is a deal breaker for you or not. Lots of LBSs have that as a deal breaker........ Until it becomes reality. Then out of fear of what comes next, vthey cave and it's no longer a deal breaker.

Yes, marriages can and have healed after infidelity. But just because that's a possibility doesn't mean it's no longer a deal breaker for you

So the question I have is this: is it still a deal breaker and you're just afraid of what that means? Or are you really willing to do the hard work necessary, and require it of her too, in order to heal from it? And please do not gloss over the second part of that. Requiring hard work from her is absolutely necessary. Marriages do not heal from infidelity without the cheater agreeing to work at it too. If you're willing to accept it without her owning it and working then that means you are giving it up as a deal breaker out of fear.

Anything you do out of fear from this point forward will not end well.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018