This is the main reason I am here. Over the last few years my wife has essentially called my bluff on these "boundaries" and whenever I told her I found the behavior was inappropriate, she doubled down and partied harder.
Your goal is to get to a place where your boundaries are not bluffable. You have them to protect yourself and you enforce them when necessary. This will take a long time and a lot or hard work.
Originally Posted by Maturin
Right now the focus is on detaching, and being the most optimistic/attractive I can be (for me, not for her or the MR).
Perfect! Firs thing to implement is a schedule for who is looking after the children. One weekend on and one weekend off. When she is looking after the children you are out GAL like a madman.
