I will keep working at it. I am going to practice within some of my social circle as R2C has suggested. Thank you gentlemen this is really helpful and not commonly taught.
Rock,
Go to a coffee shop. Sit where you can observe two women talking. One will be talking. The other is doing what is called "Active listening". At some point, they reverse roles. Active listening is the skill you need to learn. Most men suck at it. We all want to fix things. Women mostly want the listener to relate and understand how they felt emotionally. Apply it with your X, your children, the women you are dancing with.
1) That must have been frustrating. 2) I would have been angry. 3) I hate feeling like that.
Pretty easy to let the other person know that you are listening and understand how they are feeling emotionally once you realize your role in the conversation.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
