I've been leaning on sandi2's various discussions for LBHs with WW since finding the forums, and her insights in many cases describe my situation perfectly. However, my wife in not in an active A as far as I know and is not the one advocating for D, so some of the guidance doesn't suit my sitch exactly (or does it? correct me if needed).
I do think that removing my time and attention, focusing on GAL, "opening the cage door", and doing what is best for me and my kids makes obvious sense. But when it comes to dealing with disrespect I have a question. My wife tends to go out and stay out late, and I anticipate she will do so this weekend at her holiday party. In the past I had told her that staying out until 2am was inappropriate and not okay with me, and that is still the case and would be for me in any future relationship. The advice here for H with WW seems to be to "take your balls back" and no longer tolerate acts of disrespect, but also to detach and let the WW go and live their life.
So if I stay home with my kids while my W is out until the wee hours, aren't I tolerating a form of disrespect and giving my W the logistical comfort of a MR?
