Hi Pattnee, sorry if I missed it, but is there a date for his departure? I thought at one point you'd mentioned November, but I'm guessing that date came and went, maybe as he was waiting on paperwork/visas.
You are doing well in a tough situation. It still seems hard to me that you are around him so much. Both of my WAW's gave me the "gift" of space. Still lots of pain but it does help detachment. If he really does head to New Orleans, you'll really experience what that's like. It sounds like you're mostly on your way there, anyway.
Your kids reaction made me laugh a bit, and I don't mean that to be insulting. When I was here the first time, some of the vets that were here warned a lot against mind-reading. Trying to predict what other people are thinking or how they will think/react is very frequently wrong. I know you were worried about their reaction a bit at one point, and H was probably fearing it. And then he probably felt really small when they didn't seem to care. I hope they're doing well, and I'm glad to hear you are charging forward. Enjoy the holidays.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
