I'm a newbie help!

[Snowball]

Craziness from today. I was at home and he came home from work and stomped up the stairs and accused me of having a man in the house. Honestly, I burst out laughing. Then I played his game and said, don't go in my office! I think he thought I was serious for a minute there. Obviously, there was no man in our house. Our son had a friend come over and he left his keys on the table. HA! I should have left it alone but this really threw me for a loop. He profusely apologized. But I still just can't stand the way he goes on and on about, you can do what you want, I can't control you, at least don't do that here. WTF?! I said, you have every right to say you don't want me to do that, you are my husband, are you not?! I went on to ask things of him, he'll always immediately say he is not having sex with anyone ever. He says he wants sex, thinks of sex but isn't doing it. Never mentions that he wants it with me, or that he misses it with me, just sex. UGH He said he hasn't touched another woman since the day I said that is a never gonna happen thing for me(I'm not sure why this isn't a clear established thing but it is now) but he admitted to dancing with 3 women. Said he never touched any of them. I said I don't even want him dancing with any other women and he said.. that's where I have a problem. I don't know if it was because I'm sounding controlling or what.

I said, that is disrespectful to me and he said he doesn't purposely disrespect me, that he just doesn't go out of his way to respect me. Because I've been disrespectful to him. I've always hated how he just won't own up to anything and blames all his actions on someone else. Get real. I talked to my coach, to my friend and I'm going to the gym soon.