I've been mostly OK today. For the first time since BD 10 days ago I felt like I had finally reached acceptance, but I knew it wouldn't last.
This evening I am getting hit with a wave of nostalgia, remembering the person I have shared so many memories with, including our silly moments and the side of her personality that only I know. I miss my partner in crime and best friend The sudden switch in her personality towards me is soul crushing.
Any suggestions on how to deal with emotional setbacks? I can't help but hold on to hope that someday that person will come back to me.
Thank you all for letting me rent and providing feedback and support!
The emotional feelings are normal... make space to grief the loss. Do this in private or with close friends. Do NOT do this with your w.
The setback happens when you act on them by sending a "miss you" text or by trying to nice your way back.
Stay the course. She has fired you as her husband. Treat her as a stranger. Not overly friend, yet not rude. Not willing to help her with her issues yet not punishing her either.
One day at a time... sometimes one hour at a time.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
The sudden switch in her personality towards me is soul crushing.
