Boat and DnJ I value your feedback, insights and questions for my consideration.
I am reflecting and you both have good points. I can see room for improvement on my communication in this scenario. And also challenges in our shared dynamic.
I had worked out with my IC a plan to communicate in advance with W about my proposed trips out of town essentially about S’s needs and how my absence would impact W. I have been finding this has been going well with my recent trips (several of my trips are with S and for those I haven’t been consulting with W). This consult has not been so much about seeking W’s permission for me to go away per se but rather to seek to understand what each of us needs: S, W and I. W has given me positive feedback about my communication about previous trips and about the everts I had made to set her up to have what she needs informationally and medically for peaceful and successful stays with S.
This time was more difficult as I have alluded. In hindsight, I see wisdom in your suggestions, D. I think it would have been helpful for me to be more proactive and plan more specifically ahead of time with W about the vehicle and for me to offer more helpful compromise on my part.
I plan to “Dig into (my)self and decide (my) path,” as you have said D.
