Boat and DnJ I value your feedback, insights and questions for my consideration.
I am reflecting and you both have good points. I can see room for improvement on my communication in this scenario. And also challenges in our shared dynamic.
I had worked out with my IC a plan to communicate in advance with W about my proposed trips out of town essentially about S’s needs and how my absence would impact W. I have been finding this has been going well with my recent trips (several of my trips are with S and for those I haven’t been consulting with W). This consult has not been so much about seeking W’s permission for me to go away per se but rather to seek to understand what each of us needs: S, W and I. W has given me positive feedback about my communication about previous trips and about the everts I had made to set her up to have what she needs informationally and medically for peaceful and successful stays with S.
This time was more difficult as I have alluded. In hindsight, I see wisdom in your suggestions, D. I think it would have been helpful for me to be more proactive and plan more specifically ahead of time with W about the vehicle and for me to offer more helpful compromise on my part.
I plan to “Dig into (my)self and decide (my) path,” as you have said D.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You are making this way more complicated than it needs to be.
I’ve been saying that for 12 months. So much so, that at one point I questioned if Rock was actually scamming us all.
Rockon is an addict. His kryptonite is BS interactions/communication with his crazy ex. They make him feel like he is working towards reconciliation, even though his marriage is done. Finished. Irreparable.
Coming here for “advice” (the hard stuff of which he completely ignores) allows him to disappear into a fantasy world where this marriage is worth saving.
His ex is a manipulative cheat and a liar, and their two pathologies are tragically co-dependent.
No-one could ever find happiness when they have anything to do with this woman. The only thing missing here is the emotional fortitude and self respect to know he deserves better.
