Hey Kind! Thanks. I hear you. It is more that, without caving in, I am thinking about how to avoid giving W ANY ammo. I agree it shouldn’t be necessary. I could have casually said something a few days ago. Ironically, last month W made a comment that maybe I could tell my mom about the tourney. I could’ve said “Hey I followed up with my mom like you suggested. She may pop in” and taken the opportunity to chastise me away or reduce that risk.
D13 asked W if she’s going to join us for Thanksgiving with my dad’s family. Unfortunately for D13 W was still in the fog of anger and said “Probably not” which, while OK with me, seems to have left D13 a bit understandably sad. I said “Well, it is a few days off and anything can happen but I am not revisiting the topic with W. I am doing well with not pursuing and managing W’s emotional reactivity. Hard habits to break.
