And I'm only asking because I want to know how to post to you.
What are your goals for YOU ??
Here are my goals: 1) Continue working on my plan to fund my retirement, hopefully very soon. 2) Grow her retirement money as well as mine, since our resources are still combined anyway, so hopefully she can also retire when she wants. 3) Move to another location which I find inspirational (TBD), alone. 4) Remain good friends with her and be able to enjoy family gatherings or even trips with our adult kids (and their spouse(s)), even if either (or both) of us are with other people. 5) I'm going to finally enjoy the heck out of freedom. I don't want to answer to anybody else for anything I do. If I want to spend three or four months hiking the Pacific Crest Trail or spend the summer in Switzerland, I will do it.
I want to be able to hang out with her if we both want, but don't want to be married to her. I don't think she's capable of changing the in the way I'd need to stay married. That's sort of "funny" for me to write since that's the original reason she gave to me on BD for why she said "she hasn't been attracted to me in years" - i.e. I wasn't able to provide the emotional connection she needed to be attracted to me, and she didn't think I was capable of it.
