What is ya'lls opinion about the ow still being in the back pocket means that they are still in replay. I read the hearts blessing book and sometimes that is the only thing that gets me through this with not blowing my top and just being done. My husband talks about our future now like he is never leaving. plans for the house and barn and what not. but there is no work on the relationship. i know i am looking for this way to soon. he has been broken up with the ap since the beginning of august and hope full time since September. I can see there is certain things he is baiting me with for arguments sometimes and I am trying my hardest not to feed into it and to just walk away. he went through about two months of bad depression just before he broke up with here while he was back and forth between us but i know there is still some contact with her over calls and txt. but in her book it says if there is any contact that means they are still in repay so i am gearing up for a larger worse depression and withdrawal. he has been withdrawn since about 2 weeks after he moved back in. He has also been on BuSpar for a month now so I am not sure what is the mlc stages or meds. i am not trying to stage watch but also am trying to prepare for anything wors that is yet to come. the coach i am working with thinks he is in acceptance but I know from what she says that is almost the hardest stage with them pushing. he has done some pretty big pushes but yet says he wants to have a good marriage and family now. but of course everything is still my fault for the affair. yes i can own some things i did wrong in our marriage but to be honest he has always been super emotionally immature and frankly verbally and emotionally abusive. I do see that getting better after replay. in replay he was the most cruel person I have ever seen. but know if is just a mental mess of what to do because no matter what I do it is wrong. if i am nice it is wrong and if i stand up for my self i am wrong. so I am just trying to be myself and how I would always be. And as I read the book again i can see so much of what was happening before bomb drop. it is good to see the script from others though and know i am not alone.
