Thank you all so much for your advise. I do feel like I need to ask him and talk about him moving back in and what that will look like for both of us. And let him know that while I can not control him I can control what I allow to be right under my nose and act like I don't see it. I know so many say not to push at all but he has always come through a little further with slight pushes. I guess a little stirring the pot is the term I have heard used. He has always had a big issue with being complacent and without a little push would always stay exactly where he was. Like I said he is seeming to be more normal and other than there being no relationship talk or ANY physical touch. (he was twisting in pretzels to get by me in the kitchen without touching me. But that has gotten much better and is starting to use playing with the kids when they are close to me or in my bed to get closer) it is like we are all back to normal. Better than normal because we are not fighting at all. He has started to pitch in more with house expenses and chores. not a lot but better than he ever did pre BD. So know it is just him being stuck in this limbo of ending it completely with OW and really having the conversations that we need to have about what we both need in our marriage. Thank you all so much for the advise and support.
