Hey Terapin - Sorry to hear about your desired house falling through. Tough market right now. I'm looking to go the apartment route so that I've got more time than chores to worry about if/when D ultimately occurs.
The divorce cake is tacky and childish. It's a continuation of acting out, trying to show herself and others how "great" (and "right") her decision is for her. If you're confident it's right, you don't need a cake to tell you IMHO. This is the problem MWD discusses related to society normalizing divorce. I'm glad to hear you didn't lower yourself to take that picture. As a child with divorced parents, my experience is that kids generally see each parent for who they are. Keep working at being the person you want your kids to see and role model after. As Rock and DnJ suggest, the power of this group of anonymous supporters is that we do care and want to help you how we can.
It is frustrating, sad, and angering to be sure. You're right to feel any and all of those things. I hope you'll not give them too much more time to live in your head. I'm sure you've got 2-3 things that work for you to shift your perspective toward doing something positive and healthy for yourself.
