DnJ et al, I am revisiting finances after L meeting.
I have made it clear to L that I want to keep the house to best support S’s needs. L will draft up recommendations for me with a number of scenarios/ hypothetical outcomes. Goal to avoid court and open to mediation. Discussed some creative approaches to elicit cooperation from W in keeping the house til I can hope to buy her out.
L said that it’s not realistic or fair to expect W to pay 1/2 mortgage and utilities over here because with her limited income she needs to be able to look after her basic needs. L emphasized that I would be entitled to child support. Given my new understanding, it seems fair to me at this point now that I am working. W has been contributing the same amount as I am which essentially covers child support in that she shouldn’t be expected to pay mortgage and utilities here.
So I am drafting an email to propose an updated arrangement. My return to work is going well and I am increasing my hours. I will propose that I formally take over mortgage and utility payments and W provide child support to me.
Hmmm. Something doesn’t seem right here. If you’re still married and your stbxw is on the title why wouldn’t she be responsible for her half? If she lives with her mom how can she not cover her basic needs? If she can’t even cover her basic needs how can she be required to pay you child support?
