I'm not gonna focus too much on where HE is...I'm gonna ask you some questions about where YOU are...
Whether he is home or not shouldn't change who you are and hopefully have become through all of this....Standing your ground and absolute boundaries are your only lifeline to finding something different. And you have to enforce the boundary in order for it to mean something....With any luck though, YOU should be light years ahead of him when it comes to relationship skills. I don't know you, however hopefully, you have been honing all of the things that you didn't like about yourself within the confines of a relationship. Making changes to yourself and for yourself.
So some questions.....
What does reconciliation look like to you ??
What does having a healed marriage look like to you ??
What boundaries are you putting in place to protect yourself ??
What fears and anxiety are you having over the thought of this ??
What does forgiving him look like to you ???
How can your boundaries be strong, without punishing him ?
Have you forgiven him ??
Have you forgiven yourself for your part in the breakdown of this relationship ???
Anyhoo....maybe some things to think about.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
