I'm torn with this response....

On one hand, your STBX is correct...

If the shoe were on the other foot, you would want her to let you know....??


On the other hand....

You did say D20.....as in TWENTY ...???

As inclined as I am to say that their relationship is theirs to cultivate or destroy, and that you shouldn't be in the middle of it....

"Kids and Bills" should be the only point of contact between you at this point.

In the future, YOU have now set the tone for what that looks like when it comes to situations like this.

Like the old phrase that "you get as good as you give".


And for now, it is what it is....

Don't over apologize and try to "explain" or "make things right". You apologized once (or more).

Just "do better" in the future.



A simple......"D is the ER. Will have her contact you " prolly would have went a long way.



Originally Posted by Rock
But why didn’t I tell her about D right away.

And your answer to that is....... ???


Originally Posted by Rock
She is a loving and caring mom

Doesn't matter if she is the crappiest parent ever....

Don't attach your feelings and emotions to it...


Originally Posted by Rock
I should not have held that from her.

What would YOU have wanted to happen if the roles were reversed ???





And BTW....I'm glad you are feeling better.