For whatever reason, they don't see us as we'd like them to: here to provide safety and security. Whether our prior wrongs (if any) towards them or some other self-oriented need, they turn to someone else for the thrill, perhaps because the other person has some kind of emotional entanglement, or who knows because as we continue to say, logic has left the building. Keep working on you, focus on your children, and stay the DB course as best as possible. I'm sorry to read that you're having trouble sleeping. I used to experience the same thing. Some medication, as well as the positive impacts of DBing, helped resolve sleeping issues at least. You don't deserve the treatment that you're receiving. Best to try to stay out of his way as he goes through his process and give him as little opportunity to point to you case as a cause or contributor. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and will keep an eye on the board for you.
