It gets more intense. W texted and said that I keep controlling her (I’m standing up to her now I don’t see that I am controlling anymore but I am very open to examine my behaviours) and it’s always been that way and that’s why she left. She also doesn’t want S25 driving our car that we both own if he is not talking to her. He sometimes borrows the car especially to take S22 somewhere.
She also texted to say that it’s not fair that I didn’t allow her to withhold some of her contributions towards family expenses when she went on her trips. She said that’s another example of me controlling her. I kept the same expectations that we would continue to contribute the same amounts and I would not subsidize her travels. That was Consistent with how I have treated my own travels as well.
We have made a change since I was without income (I am working and earning now but it is limited and will gradually I increase). Now we each contribute equally to mortgage insurance taxes and utilities and we are each individually responsible now for our own personal expenses (previously I contributed double what she did and that also covered gas and groceries for each of us. She has not started paying child support yet.
