Not even sure where to start

[Boat14]

She is struggling with this decision but she feels its the right thing to do. D

What makes you think she is struggling?

She still throws out the possibility of us being together eventually. D

This is standard WW script. Keeps you on the hook. In an essence she is saying "I am going to try out some other dudes. If I don't like them and you end up being a better option I will take you back". Does that sound appealing to you?

I am not sure if that will happen or not. I feel like I may be a different person if she wants back later on. D

You 100% will be another person if you embrace this journey.

I think this is good though as we both were fixated on each other and not really living our own lives and having our happiness. D

So you agree that D is the answer here?

We both were stuck in a relationship rut so to speak and although things looked good on the outside, she was dealing with feelings and not expressing them and I was stuck in depression from life and work and just everything came crashing down. D

Yeah so that is when the "good times and in bad" part of the vows come into play. Not "until things get difficult".

I realize that we both still have an attachment to each other. I realize we both are still attracted to each other. D

If she was attached to you and attracted to you she would not be leaving you.

I realize we need to find our own happiness though and figure out our own lives and if we find our way back to each other then maybe it could work. D

Maybe but based on your expectations of D I think you may be in for a rude awakening.

That can not be the focus at this time though. D

This is the only important thing you discussed. Take 100% of the focus off of her and place it on yourself and your daughter.