I agree with Sunflyer. GOOD for you, especially as you hopefully transition to enjoying what you're doing for yourself and less and less for him or to win him back. As many fellow DBers on this thread remind each other of at times, much of this isn't about us. Yes, we've all likely contributed to our situations in some way. However, often unresolved traumas, attachment issues, and things that pre-date our relationships consciously or subconsciously drive a WAS. And, it is a day-by-day process Pattnee. Keep trying to make each individual day a good one. Eventually, you string along a few in a row. Longer-term, the changes you make become positive habits and life is better for you and your kids. I continue hoping for the best for you all.
