Logically she would be better off to stay and try to make this work. But she is emotionally thinking and reacting to pent up feelings that she isnt dealing with and running from essentially. I still care for her and a part of me always will. I feel like there is a timeline with me though. I will still be in love with her probably when we sign out papers. and probably afterwards as well. I will heal though and when I do, I dont forsee me taking her back. maybe I do, maybe I dont. Just how I feel right now. If I do though it will def be different and some boundaries created and rules of engagement. One thing that will be a deal breaker for me though is if she sleeps with OM. If that happens then Im out. Been cheated on in my R before her. I know we wont be together but I feel like if there is any chance of reconcile then that cant happen! Shall see how this goes.
Of course, but logic left on the bus long ago.
My W has OM. I have not confronted her with it, but she made it ridiculously easy to find the evidence. Perhaps, subconsciously, she wants me to know, because that will make it easier to walk away from her. I am certain that she is aware that I've figured it out.
I've always said that infidelity was a deal breaker, but honestly in my case it's not even the biggest problem to repairing things. That would be her family. She has poisoned relations between me and them. Even if there were a chance, I don't think I could go back knowing that I would not be accepted like before.
You will continue to have feelings for a while, regardless of which way this goes. They may seem contradictory, which is normal. Do I still feel attraction for my wife? Some, yes. Do I love her? Not this version of her. The old W who was honest I could love easily.
Do I like her? Definitely not.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023