Read this over and over. Let it sink in. One of the most important things you'll hear.
Most of us play these kinds of scenarios out in our head at one time or another.
It is highly unlikely she will admit error. As Kind says, she has her story and she is going to stick to it, even if she ends up riding the highway to hell (apologies to AC/DC).
Digging the AC/DC pun here! haha. Kind of true though.
Was talking with the IC and just telling him I have a hard time breaking the logical and emotional side of it. Logically she would be better off to stay and try to make this work. But she is emotionally thinking and reacting to pent up feelings that she isnt dealing with and running from essentially. I still care for her and a part of me always will. I feel like there is a timeline with me though. I will still be in love with her probably when we sign out papers. and probably afterwards as well. I will heal though and when I do, I dont forsee me taking her back. maybe I do, maybe I dont. Just how I feel right now. If I do though it will def be different and some boundaries created and rules of engagement. One thing that will be a deal breaker for me though is if she sleeps with OM. If that happens then Im out. Been cheated on in my R before her. I know we wont be together but I feel like if there is any chance of reconcile then that cant happen! Shall see how this goes.
Shifting mindset though as much as I can to getting this house closed up and packed up, figuring out where Im going to live and my 25D. And starting a new job in 2 weeks. And still doing some GAL. Lots going on. BUt the more she is away from me the better I feel about being able to detach and pull back some. Hard to do in this house with the memories and her being around at times. She is staying the night at her friends starting last night because she said her stomach is in knots from all of this and she doesnt want to sleep on the couch anymore in the basement. All her decisions and how she is letting this play out. I cant talk my way back in. Have tried and I get cracks in the wall but not enough to get her to change her mind. I feel like she will have to go on her own and me as well and both become better people. And if it works out then so be it. If it doesnt then so be it. Kind of admire her being so strong willed and stubborn on things haha.
