Thanks Kind. Good idea on the reframing and throwing in the drinking comment. He will absolutely hate that comment for sure. I’m not trying to hurt him but I know this pattern so well now.
If he despises me so so much I don’t know why he still wants to always be around me. Some days I wish he was one of these guys who completely vanished for a while.
Oh he knows I am more than happy to have a good time without him, both socially and with bedroom toys. I’ve even bought new lingerie and he’s noticed ( sober not drunk)
I think a lot of his projections are just his own insecurity and self issues that he isn’t conscious of at the moment. Maybe never will be
I’m prepared for the sandwiches coming. I am dreading the absolute emotional mess I will be when he gets on that plane for “ good” . It’s almost the door closing for good in my mind and I still held hope he would get himself together first
Oh well one day at a time I guess

M:41 H:48
T:20. M:16.5
BD: 15/12/22 -moved out 17/3/2023