Please know that my comments are coming from a place of kindness. But I think you need some brutal honesty here.
What the hell are you doing?
You’re like a moth to a flame. You just can’t help yourself and you keep making things worse.
Part of you comes here and says you know you need to stop being so weak in front of her and she needs to respect you, and next minute you’re having D&Ms with her in the kitchen or messaging her boss at work.
The advice on your thread has been pretty clear cut - to ignore her, stop engaging, and work on you. And it seems at the moment you are coming here for advice, but doing the complete oppposite.
You should read Rockon’s threads from start to finish. An absolute train wreck of good advice meets inconsistent DB behaviour and then excuses when challenged about it.
She has zero respect for you. Why don’t you have some for yourself?
Don’t you feel like you deserve someone who treats you right? I asked this earlier and I’ll ask this again - how can you be attracted to her when she treats you with such disrespect?
You need to go back to basics.
1. Stop ALL interactions 2. Read DB 3. Read Cadet’s welcome thread and EVERY link contained therein
We want the best for you mate, we really do. But here from the cheap seats, you seem to be regularly placing the final nails in the coffin of your marriage.
Every time you think you can TALK her out of this (either in person or through messages/phone calls) I want you to picture a coffin that says “Marriage” lowering itself into the ground.
