H EW possibly DBing and I’m losing the battle

[Sunflyer]

Well, I am hardly a veteran here, but it sounds to me like he is gaslighting you again.

He is making it seem that your actions are fully responsible for the current situation, but on the other hand he continues, apparently, to maintain a relationship with XW, and he doesn't want to change that. He likes having two women wrapped around his finger.

Great idea about exploring a new hobby! That kind of thing is exactly what you need.

Also, I am not sure I read your entire thread in the past, but I've gathered that you and H don't live under the same roof. May I ask why that is? Did you separate at some point? Apologies if I missed something.