Second roller coaster ride (part 3)

[Pattnee5]

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Firstly I am so so sorry you had a bad week. We all have them. You have to ride it out and ride out those emotions. It helps us heal and grow. We all hate our WAS when we are left holding everything while they go off on their merry way to live their merry life. It’s selfish and cruel, and the things they say hurt. But you know what? Karma is also a b1tch and one day the tables will turn. As much as I know you want to ask W what her issues are she won’t tell you. She obviously has issues and is either ashamed or hasn’t figured it out. I can’t remember is there another man?
You need to let the in-laws go, unfortunately you break up with them too. They will always unconditionally support and love their daughter no matter how right or wrong she is.
You can absolutely do it, and juggle being a single dad. And how amazing you
Will be at it. Remember to always know your truth. You stayed, you didn’t run, you wanted to save your marriage. They are your truths and that’s all that matters. I now tell anyone who asks me that “H walked out on me, didn’t want to sort his issues out or whatever issues he had within our marriage and is moving to the other side of the world “ blatant true facts. I don’t badmouth him or anything but I have no shame saying the truth. The amount of jaws I’ve had to collect from the pavement 😂. Firstly that a grown man isn’t prepared to work on issues but moreso the abandonment of the kids. There’s no sugar coating with me. I always made excuses for his behaviour early on and then realised as more crazy he got and time went he didn’t have my back so why should I have his anymore and make his life rosy. You just tell your people your facts and know your truths and everything else will unfold. It will unravel for W, the lies the actions. Remember DnJ always says they wear a mask. Eventually the mask is going to fall off. I just hope for your W sake that her health is ok especially for s2. But she’s not your responsibility now. Let her family handle her
You worry about you. Keep hitting the gym, keep getting around friends. When you have a bad day journal. Write stuff down, vent to a friend on a phone. Punch something
We all have our ways of tackling this.

You mentioned on my posts about tattoos and your dream. Haha go get a tattoo. Get something meaningful, your kids names their dates of birth, something to symbolise your two
Most important things in your life. I have 2 tattoos both meaningful my last one was 12 years ago after I had S I got the kids names on me. Now with this major life event I am getting another one. Something to symbolise I am stronger than I know and think. And that’s the truth. We all sit there early on unsure how we are going to survive how we can get through. Yet we do because we are stronger than we think.( some people aren’t and live a miserable life of negativity). But we can do this. Read some inspiring books. David Goggings “can’t hurt us” is a great read. We all have it in us, we just have to dig deep