I completely agree on all counts a job and an overseas “adventure”
Is not going to solve a single thing for H. He will continue to drink to numb his emotions and then loneliness will kick in. The loneliness of no longer having the daily contact with the kids or me. Or any human really. The novelty and shine of living abroad will wear off fairly quick. Kids and I will get busy moving on with our lives, kids won’t have the time or can be bothered calling dad as often ( let’s be honest we all know what teenagers are like). H will either bury himself in work and drink to numb the loneliness and emptiness or figure out some stuff. I have a feeling he will resist for a long time. I know H better than he knows himself. He’s running from his issues but also has something to “prove” to his family. His successful older siblings have always been held so high on a pedestal by his father so I think he has alot of father issues with expectations. But he can barely think like a 20 year old let alone see what he is doing. See how he is letting his dad and his sister influence him.
It’s very sad to sit on the outside and watch it all and see the clearer picture yet do nothing about it .
Don’t get me wrong because I know a lot of you are from America, I love visiting America and holidaying there, but living there is a whole new ballgame. They will work him to the absolute core. We are pretty lucky here in Australia

Card, as for me and how I will go? Well im prepared initially I am probably going to be extremely devastated the day he gets on that plane, the day that I sell and move out of this house we built.But im working alot within myself now to handle it. And I have the most amazing friends and family.But yes I think you are right I think once he has physically disappeared out of my life is when I will fully heal.my kids my friends my family bring me so much joy and happiness. Money and jobs and prestige mean nothing. At 42 I think I can still do sooooo much more amazing stuff, without an anchor dragging me back.

M:41 H:48
T:20. M:16.5
BD: 15/12/22 -moved out 17/3/2023