I know you don't want him to go, but I'm interested to see how you are once he's off on his little "adventure" and not drinking and blowing up on you on a regular basis. You seem to handle it well, anyway, but I think you're going to grow even more once you don't have to deal with this every other day. And without knowing your H personally, I'm not convinced that a modest salary boost is going to solve his problems.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
