Originally Posted by Sunflyer
I feel like I am at a crossroads of sorts. DB has two benefits: saving your marriage or saving yourself (or both).
DB has one benefit. Safe yourself. Saving yourself may also save your marriage though highly unlikely. If your STBXW and you have a chance it will most likely be way down the road.
Originally Posted by Sunflyer
I feel like I may need to abandon ship on the first possibility and concentrate on the second.
1,000%
Originally Posted by Sunflyer
The infidelity isn't even the biggest obstacle, if it's possible to step back and look at it abstractly.
It's one of many obstacles.
Originally Posted by Sunflyer
The larger issue is her family and the toxicity that exists there. Even if we were to get back together, the family unit we had cannot exist the way it did before.
Of course not, it wasn't working for her and if you dig down deep it probably wasn't working for you either.
Originally Posted by Sunflyer
I am asking myself, do I really want this? Am I not worth more than this?
You are worth way more you just have been beaten down and haven't realized it yet. You will some day, that I can promise you.