I need help now that he is coming home

[Pattnee5]

Dropping the rope is hard. Really really hard. Believe me Jessie it took me a while. I too have kids and H is still very involved into their day to day ( until he leaves-yes my H recently decided to take a job transfer on the other side of the world so there’s zero logic with MLC) so it’s so so hard to drop that rope. But once you do you will feel better or at least start to heal you. As DnJ says you didn’t break him so you can’t fix him. Don’t even engage in R talks even if he brings it up. I have learnt to shut it down. While they are still “broken” they can’t handle them( as you have seen with the storming out). My H may start to say something that resembles R talk and the moment I respond( despite what I say) he internally combusts and usually shuts down or storms out. You live and learn p