Happy Bday Sun. I am so sorry it wasn’t a good one for you. It must be absolutely horrible to overhear all that stuff on your birthday. Just mark this down as a bad one and put it away. Far far away. In time you will have so many more birthdays that will be far better than this one and eventually this one will just be a distant memory. Every day the sun rises and it’s a chance for a new beginning, a new story. In regard to what to say when W confronts you. That’s tough. I love Kinds advice but geez that’s impossible. Even I couldn’t do that but I certainly would want to
Thanks Pattnee. W seems something of a mess at the moment. Happy, of course, when she is communicating with the other man (stars in her eyes) but otherwise, kind of harried and upset. I believe she is aware that I know what is going on. She has spoken perhaps three sentences to me in the last 36 hours, and I also think that she is annoyed that I won't engage with her nonsense.
She has cooked meals maybe one or two days out of the last week. She just buys food and leaves it in the refrigerator for myself to heat up or prepare. I don't care about whether she cooks for me or not, but she isn't cooking for our son either. And since we're the only two eating multiple days, a lot of food is going to waste lately.
I keep following your story, and the words that resonate most with me are every time you compare your old H to your current H. Boy, did I love the old version of my W. But this version, no thanks. She's just running around torching everything in sight that has to do with her marriage and family.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023