Great question, Thornton. I love my in-laws very much and have an excellent relationship with them. Maintaining a positive relationship with them feels best for me and my daughter.
I know that my attending this event itself won't create false hope for me that she'll change her mind. In fact, it may create more tension for W because of the positive interactions that typically occur when I'm with W's family. I'm not sure that tension is good for "me" in terms of the goal of things like the last resort technique, etc., to help the person see what they're losing/missing.
This is the paradox of the DB process: on one hand, you're trying to DB to save a marriage while simultaneously preparing yourself to successfully navigate a D. I need to think more about what is best for me here overall.
