Personally, I think your best chance lies in being the first to act and making one big, swift move.
Put all her stuff on the kerb, message her and say “I know all about AP, I wish you both the very best. It’s best you live somewhere else, your stuff is on the kerb for collection. All the best, Sunflyer”
But I also know that’s an incredibly hard thing to do when you’re a battered, broken husband. I certainly wouldn’t have been strong enough to do it when I was in the middle of my breakup, but boy do I regret not doing it.
We’re all here for you Sunflyer. The pain is… immeasurable.
