Understood. Kind of want to ask her again and if she says no then ask her if she would show me her phone. But like DnJ says, everything has consequences. If I want to try to reconcile this then maybe I shouldnt take it that far. If there is an OM then that will be revealed in time like DnJ says. I dont think there is honestly but hard to ignore some of the other stuff. Maybe it really is that she is just done and wants out. Maybe she has been hurt from the years and needs her space. She tells me her plans for the most part. She isnt being too cold on questions and conversations. So who knows. Def something im keeping an eye on though.