2nd Time Around

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If you're not familiar with me, this is my 2nd time doing through DB. A 2nd D, unfortunately. Some circumstances similar (young child with the W), and others very different (current W has MS that is progressing and I believe she's having a crisis with it). I can attest that you are in the right place. The first D I thought was going to kill me. I never saw it happening, it disrupted everything I believed about marriage/D, and it blew up the future I envisioned. Thank goodness for this place. It took me months, but I lived out the phrase you see around here sometimes: You'll look back on this time as your finest hour. I look back on 2014 with fondness even knowing the pain I was in for months.

And one other note: DB eventually worked. I detached, I changed, I took off as a person and was just loving life. xW's R with OM fell apart and eventually she tried to get back with me. At that point, it was my decision, and I decided not to pursue a future with her. I don't regret it, either, even though I'm going through this again. And if she'd never tried, I would have been fine with that, too. Full detachment after getting left by your spouse is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Mine was like the flick of a light switch, all at once. I knew in an instance I was over her and the future was wide open. One of the best moments of my life, even with what I know now (that I was going to go through it again).