What she is doing is simply never going to make sense, because she is operating purely on emotions.
And as we've all been told, making decisions based on emotions is not a good idea, because emotions can change. She is doing whatever she can to assure herself that won't happen.
Pretty much all of us on this board who are being left behind--both men and women--are looking at the situation logically and from a growth mindset. Those leaving are not using logic and reason; they are running away based on fear and self-defeatism. How many times have you heard her say, "I can't...(fill in rest of sentence here)."
When some one says "I can't," they've lost the battle already.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023