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[Sunflyer]

Kind, I am trying to DB. I don’t know if the M will survive/resurrect but there has been a shift in that I don’t want to be in R with her. I am repulsed and I have anger. Now I still care about her and hope her R with our kids improves (there have been a lot of shifting dynamics there) and I am managing and dealing much better with my emotions now.

Just the look of respect in my close man friends’ eyes with being back at work is a shot in the arm.

Nothing wrong with continuing on the DB path you are on. If the marriage is really done, then you will still be in a good place for your future. And your future is what matters right now, not hers. She is walking a path that will have costs. Perhaps she is beginning to understand what price she will pay for her decisions. Only she can sort out her mess. Leave her to do it--or not do it.

Perhaps she thought running away from you would fix everything. If only it were that simple. There are no winners in situations like this.

I know how painful this is for you. I am going through it all right now. But hold your head up because YOU matter, no matter what anyone else says.

I had a long talk with my sister yesterday. She lends an ear when I want to vent everything that frustrates me and hurts me about my W leaving the marriage. She summed it all up nicely.

She said, "Everybody hits the wall sometime."

Big congrats on the job!