W said that my email was not friendly and like something you might send to a colleague that you don’t like.
Well, if the shoe fits.
Originally Posted by Rockon
On the phone, she told me that she has been wanting to talk to me about her plans to visit our daughter and granddaughter. She told me that this idea is stressful for her, given the difficulties in her R with D.
And….
This should not be some mind blowing revelation for her. Her daughter and her have had difficulties since W dropped the bomb. W doesn’t like the feel, the weight, of her consequences. Rock, not your problem to solve.
Originally Posted by Rockon
She replied, “ I can’t communicate with you this way.”
Of course, this is just she doesn’t want to communicate that way. Won’t, not can’t. A power play. Trying to exert her control.
I’d stick with email. Unlike a phone call: It’s sortable. Easily saved. And a nice record of what was actually stated. Of course, that goes both ways.
Use neutral polite wording. Stay on topic and be efficient in the necessary communication with her.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
