To me, there is the continuous recognition a woman can ruminate, suffer in silence, and complain but, like the tip of an iceberg above the water, chooses not to escalate the issue (either via honest, caring conversations with a partner or calling sooner for counseling, and instead decides "well, I did my best and the best solution now is to walk away". I'm over-simplifying so that this isn't a super long message. .
This sums up my H to an absolute tee. He must be a woman. Ha Ha. I don’t think it’s just women tbh. Maybe moreso the way they were raised and how they were raised to express emotions, deal with issues. I can see a huge amount of my H comes from his upbringing and expectations to “be a man” act a certain way, never show weakness, etc. his parents are in their 80s and very old school. A lot of my male friends have more open discussion now about their issues, such as depression, or adhd etc. so it’s not a male or female thing. I think it’s very much across the board.
I think a lot of people these days thing divorce is the answer to their problems. There’s going to be a whole generation of lonely people soon. I can only hope the tables turn again for our kids sake and they see all their parents divorcing unhappily and decide that everything is worth fighting for and that the roller coaster of life means taking the good with the bad, not bailing if it gets a bit rough
M:41 H:48 T:20. M:16.5 BD: 15/12/22 -moved out 17/3/2023
