I’d remain silent. There are no questions from W. It sounds like she is feeling something - lonely, bored, likely will get aggravated - let her.
Originally Posted by Rockon
“ I am at a loss how to communicate with you. If we are at the no longer communicating stage that’s okay but it would be helpful if I knew that so I would stop trying. “
What?!? The no longer communicating stage. My goodness, she blew passed that long ago. And she’s at a loss of how to communicate with you. She’s a grown woman, she knows how to communicate.
In my opinion, W is looking for her fix. Her supply of having you wrapped around her finger is growing low, and she’s reaching out for more. Do not take the bait.
You are actively employed. (Well done by the way.) Hockey, boxing, hang out with friends. You are busy. W knows this, and is trying to worm into your life. Let her be. Until she clearly states positive intentions, let her be. Let her feel. Let her pursue.
There are no questions in her texts, nothing that requires your attention. Do keep utilizing the 24-48 hour rule, and sort out the wheat from the chaff. Basically, you only need to speak to her about bills and kids. And your response time is based upon the urgency of such.
Action vs words. What do her actions tell you? She’s still living with her Mom. No outward movement towards reconciliation. Give time and space. Let her be.
Originally Posted by Rockon
And also “ I’d like to talk about the 6 texts I’ve sent you over 2 days “
If she cannot send a text, or six, that are not clear enough, texts that she needs to do follow up on, well you don’t need to parse together her vague-speak. If she was trying to communicate, she would.
Originally Posted by rockon
Thinking of texting back “ sure. What do you have in mind? “
Go for a bike ride. Go for a walk. I’d give yourself another day before responding.
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DNJ is 100% correct.
She sees maybe you’ve started to drop the rope, and she needs her fix. Her anchor check. Her “do I have this desperate, weak man still wrapped around my little finger?”
Give her ABSOLUTELY nothing.
Also, she’s a toxic and manipulative train wreck. You still trying to save this marriage?
