Not even sure where to start

[Ready2Change]

You will get conflicting advise. Your job is to see and evaluate all of your options and pick the right one for you.

.....she came and sat next to me............Just listened to her talk about it. Full attention on her.........

Perfect...you should also validate her emotional state every so often....

...she said....

Do not trust her words....her behavior is what you want to pay attention to

How do I know where it went wrong and where I need to improve at with regards to the R

You measure your success by reviewing YOUR OWN ACTIONS to see if you are behaving the way YOU DECIDED you wanted to act. If you decide you want to let her phone calls go to VM, but then you answer the phone, you know you need to improve in this are of your life. If you are letting it go to VM, then you work on something else.

She told me today that when she came home last night she wanted to sneak up to my room. But decided not to because she doesn't want to give me the wrong impression or anything. Well later today we were talking while she was packing things in the basement. She asked me what I would do if she would have came up. Told her I am not even sure.

That response is acceptable.

W:"What would you have done if I came up?"
H:"Remember that time ( and then describe one of your better intimate moments)....Too bad you didn't come up (then wink and smile)...I got to go" then leave in the car.

That I am still attracted to her (probably shouldn't have done that).

Do not tell her you are attracted to her....

But she was leading me on during conversations about sex.

Softly reject her.

So is there harm with continuing the sex?

Depends on if she is having sex with other guys.

Conversations have been good if we don't talk about R or M.

Avoid R talk like the plague...Build sexual tension with her then be the first to leave. You want her desiring you.