When talking with W, let her lead at her speed. Let her bring up topics and explain/tell you whatever it is she is wanting to say. Your goal is to basically listen and validate. Ensure she feels heard.
I’m guessing the boundary you mention regarding calls at work was something along the lines for her not to do it. If/when she does call you at work, enforce the boundary, let her call go to voice mail. Let her feel the loss of you. She needs to feel the loss of her emotional support person.
If her anxiety gets ramped up, that is a good thing. When you aren’t involved and she still gets all upset and anxious she might just start to realize her feelings are not because of you. With some good fortune she might even realize she needs to look inward for answers. All part of minimizing that target she’s painting you with.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
