Like job said, a crisis will take as long as it takes.
Did your H’s crisis start in 2017? The seeds for his crisis were planted long ago, back in his informative years. Events in H’s life, his upbringing, all brought him to be susceptible to a crisis.
2017, and in the years after, are certainly rife with major life events. These events trigger dormant and unrealized inner childhood torments and pains. Those inner demons of his. So, in a way, his crisis started around 2017, as well as it started much much earlier.
Bomb drop is the overt emergence of a MLCer’s pain and running. Until BD, their torment and confusion is quite covert and hidden from the world. And they suffer in silence. This is not some self-flagellation, they are going so off the rails that they really do not know what is going on. They are embarrassed, confused, and have no mechanism for conversing about it.
Bomb drop is aptly named. They explode. Their ceaseless inner torment has reached critical mass. BD is usually the first real outward sign of things having gone majorly awry, and is mistakenly taken as the start, when in fact it all started years before.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
