Do my actions serve my goals of bringing me closer to having a better marriage and life?
A suggestion for you. Split these apart, and change their order.
Do my actions serve my goal of bringing me closer to having a better life?
Do my actions serve my goal of bringing me closer to having a better marriage?
Two separate goals. The first is completely within your control and power to fulfill. In the second you can only control your part. Realize, the better a life you craft, the better you will influence the second.
To the actual achievement of those goals: Identify them. Clearly. What defines success? How will you know when you do have a better life? Describe it. For such a noble goal as life’s betterment, there will be many paths and headings; each a worthy goal in their own right. List the bigger steps to achieve these. Then further list those big steps into smaller and smaller steps. Each small step achieved bringing you closer and closer to your overall goal(s).
We all required a certain amount of understanding before we will let go. You have your proof of an EA. This information, when utilized in a positive manner, is certainly a gift.
I’d no longer snoop on H and XW. I’d also stop the cake eating. H is living in two worlds. Do not work to destroy XW or their relationship, you’ll just push them together even more. Just let H go. Let him lay in the bed he’s made.
Focus on you. And keep moving forward.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
