My Story (2)

[Sunflyer]

Went to a retirement workshop at work yesterday. Not because I am planning on retiring soon, but to become more informed so I can gauge my own financial future in light of what is going on in my M right now.

Basically, as long as I can avoid getting taken to the cleaners in the separation agreement, my future looks pretty good. The boys can remain on my health insurance until their 26th birthdays, even if I retire before then, so they are set. I will be set as well for health coverage, with my job-related insurance acting as supplement to Medicare. I also found out (something I didn't know) that with my plan, my Medicare premiums should be at least partially reimbursable. The only coverage I would have to buy is for items not covered by my main plan (such as optical, for example).

W could have had health coverage via my insurance plan for the remainder of her life, even if I predeceased her. Talk about throwing away the Willy Wonka golden ticket.

(Note: I would never tell someone to stay in a marriage for money. But if they were thinking of getting out, I would suggest that they weigh the whole picture against the problem that exists and consider all the benefits of working it out vs. ending the M).

S17 has a four-day weekend, and is home from college. He got in last night after 9:00 and immediately ran out to his favorite chain food establishment, which doesn't exist in the much smaller city where he attends college. Glad to see him. The downside to this is that W's parents will be coming around to see him as well. I will be polite and keep interaction to a minimum.

Going to take him to see my older sister in a little while. W remains obsessed and furious with the fact that my sister has cut W out of her life. Her latest statement to this effect (today) was via text, so I simply ignored it.