Do not engage with your h about the divorce filing. Let the lawyers handle this. It's par for the course, that he doesn't want to give you anything. However, as his spouse, you should be getting part of whatever was accrued during the 31 years of marriage. Your lawyer will handle this for you.

Try to keep the focus on you. I know it is difficult to deal with, but you need to step outside the boxing ring and allow him to fight with himself and his demons.

The more you attempt to talk to him, the more he will dig his heels in.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.