Thanks for dropping in and updating. Wow. A lot has happened.
I’m glad to hear your procedure went well and yielded much improvement.
It very much sounds like H has made positive steps. An awakening. Remorseful. Realization. Taking accountability and responsibility. Even acknowledging and accepting medication. That’s quite the positive steps indeed.
Continue to go slow. H has to get use to his new skin. It will take a good while, 18-24 months (ish), for him to truly feel comfortable.
Originally Posted by marching
H says he doesn't know what he was trying to achieve last year when he said he wanted to D.
Yes. And that’s actually a positive indicator of some deep internal change / alteration. It’s such a shift, such a paradigm shift, that once which he saw clearly, once was so desired, once was so driven for, is now literally unseeable and unrecognizable. In time, and as H heals, this will likely be revealed to him. Part of becoming comfortable in his own skin. H will so fear judgement from you and others regarding his past path and choices. In time, his “reasons” for such past behaviours will likely surface, and they likely will not make sense, even to him. That’s ok. Another positive indicator by the way, H not being able to make sense of previous “why” he did stuff. It’s part of the his path to acceptance and wholeness.
Be supportive. Be the lighthouse.
And congratulations on the new apartment.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
