I need to make the right changes permanent for me, not to manipulate W back into the marriage and not to “attract” in a flashy way, another woman. I don’t actually know if I will want to move beyond single again.
I think I need to focus on my priorities now which includes great friendships of both sexes. But not necessarily with dating or marriage as a goal. Yes I do theoretically want to restore my M but I’m not attracted to W or the R she and I have or what that M became.