back again.... looking for advice

[Jim1234]

MrP, I appreciate the suggestions, but I don't know if I can get a better life! I've really taken those lessons to heart and continued them after the D!

Cadet, we are both trying, and I'm optimistic.

And Sunflyer, this obsession takes up a significant part of her time. She is free to do her own thing, but I get irate when she pushes it on me.

The good news is we saw the same therapist separately just over a week ago, and the initial results have been good.

I don't really know what she discussed, but there have been some differences, i.e. we came back from a wedding. I was exhausted, brushed my teeth and collapsed in bed. Instead of nagging me to shower, she slept in another room. I was already asleep, and didn't notice. So, 1) I wasn't nagged into compliance (Yay!), and 2) knowing she was unwilling to sleep in the bed with me makes me WANT to shower.

In my time with the therapist we talked about my offense at being TOLD what to do, and in her opinion, while no one likes it, in my case, I might take it too far. I'm working on that, and it's been helpful.

All in all, it's been good.